MaXIMIze Karma

With all that is going on in life right now, MaXIMIzing karma - the good kind - is much on my mind.

This concept whether it be described as karma or the rule of three or the Golden Rule, is prevalent in many of the belief systems around the world. What you put out in the world is what you get back - sometimes in spades. Personally, I prefer to get good things coming to me in my life, not bad, so over the past several months I have taken a hard look at myself and what I am doing in my life and what that is bringing into my life.

Now that is not to say that once you truly change your mindset and your ways that all of what you have put in out in the world previously will suddenly not continue on its path back to you. Just as the ripples caused by a stone dropped in a body of water continue to move towards shore long after the stone has settled on the bottom, the actions you put out in the world ripple through until they return to you. And if you continually put the same actions out into the world, those are the actions you will continually get back.

We change the world by changing ourselves. So what would you like to have come back to you today?

MaXIMIzing Life

MaXIMIze life by living by your values and virtues. For me, that means honesty, respect, dignity and honor. If you are not treating yourself and others with those four items to start with - and there are others, such as love, loyalty, fidelity...you get the drift - then you are not living life to its MaXIMum potential.

In fact you are shortchanging yourself and others and causing much more pain in the world than there truly needs to be. And believe you me, there is more than enough pain in the world to go around and definitely not enough love.

There is a saying that goes oh, what a tangled web we weave when we first practice to deceive. And once you get tangled up in such a web of lies, disrespect, dishonor, faithlessness and such, it is very hard to untangle yourself from it and you get drawn deeper and deeper more often than not.

So, do yourself and everyone your life touches a favor and MaXIMIze the virtues mentioned above.

An honest life is not always a peaceful life, however it is truly a kinder life to give to those around you and to yourself.

MaXIMIze Your Dream

In honor of Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. and his "I Have a Dream" speech, today's blog is about MaXIMIzing your dream - whatever it may be.

If we can conceive it, we can achieve it. Or put another way, nothing is impossible, just improbable (one of my mother's favorite sayings). You cannot win if you do not play.

So, in order for you to achieve your dreams, whatever they may be, do not be afraid to seek advice - whether it is from friends and relations, a counselor or therapist, or in the form of self-help books and blogs and other information available through a variety of venues.

I may have noted in an earlier blog that one of my goals is to work through Julia Cameron's The Artist's Way - well, my good intentions have come to naught as yet, beyond reading the first chapter in the book again. Now, do I beat myself up for not being "on track" and "with the program"? No - I just pick up and begin again. We are not perfect, we are human beings - and it is okay to fall from time to time. This is not failure. Failure is not getting back up and moving again.

I have worked through other books over the years, and I will share a few of them here with you:

Self Matters, Dr. Phil McGraw (yes, he has a last name)

Take Time for Your Life, Cheryl Richardson (the copy I have is from 1999, and when I was in the book store yesterday I saw the most recent iteration on the shelf)

The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, Dr. Steven Covey (another timeless classic)

Think and Grow Rich, Napoleon Hill (originally published in, I believe, 1937 - again, timeless)

Now, I have found pearls of wisdom in all sorts of places - novels I have read, subject-specific (mainly writing) books and articles, etc. - that are applicable over a wide variety of scenarios and subjects - not just the specific one that article or book was written for.

Move ahead with your dreams, even as you are seeking advice and counsel - remember you cannot win if you do not play. Motion begets motion; stagnation begets stagnation. Therefore, by continuing learning, growing, and stretching your wings, you will be fulfilling your dreams, whatever they may be!

MaXIMIze by Minimizing

You can MaXIMIze your life by minimizing the baggage you carry through it - both physically and otherwise. Sometimes though, you need to work through the otherwise to be able to minimize the physical baggage.

Whether you have an issue with collecting things - perhaps not to the extent of ending up on that show about hoarders, but enough that your obsession with owning things shuts out other things in life - or collecting non-so physical things like credit card debt, most of these habits can be traced back to things you experienced early in life.

And yes, doing the work to recognize and deal with the issues that led to these habits is not easy - you will find I rarely say anything is truly easy - however, your life will be much enriched by relieving yourself of excess baggage, no matter the source.

I may or may not get back to this subject during the course of this MaXIMIzing year, so I will give you some resources that have helped me over the years:

Tightwad Gazette by Amy Dacyczyn (pronounced "decision") - three books gleaned from a newsletter she used to publish.

FlyLady.net - a friend at work turned me on to this site over ten years ago now - one little gleaning I remember is that you can spend 15 minutes doing anything. I've used that for housework, exercise, writing, anything I want to accomplish but sometimes feel is too big to tackle.

Patricia V. Davis - a more recent find and author of Harlot's Sauce and The Diva Doctrine.

Learning yoga - the holistic teaching of yoga, not just a gym class (although I did take this as the PE requirement in college - the teacher, however, taught it holistically).

Developing your support network - garnering mentors, joining groups that do things you enjoy or who help you grow (My Girlfriends' Garden in Auburn and Roseville do this for me!), etc.

These are just some of the things that have worked for me over the years to get from where I was ten years ago or so to now - and I'm still growing and shedding unneeded baggage as I go!

MMXII - MaXIMIze for 2012

I enjoy those daily calendars very much, and this year I have one called the MENSA Puzzle Calendar. The entry for today, 2 January 2012, stated that 2012 equals MMXII in Roman numerals. It then asked the reader to think of a common eight-letter word containing those letters. The word is MaXIMIze - a good theme for this year!

So I hereby dub the year 2012 as the year to MaXIMIze your self and MaXIMIze your life!

Rather than making New Year's resolutions, I prefer to develop goals and objectives to work towards for. This year, I will be working towards goals that bring more of what I want to see in my life to me - love, laughter, happiness, joy. I will also be working towards goals which help myself others become and/or continue to be/grow as healthy, happy, responsible human beings.

So, let's start with some food for thought, shall we?

What DO you want to see more of in your life?

Set out at least three things you want to maximize this year - describe how these things will manifest in your life - look, feel, taste, smell, sound. And remember, feel is both physical and emotional.

Now, think about what you can do to bring these things - the maximizing of these things - to fruition.

Set smaller goals (sometimes called objectives in "work" speak) - monthly, weekly, daily. Write them down and keep them where you can see them and reflect on them constantly. I use a white board for this purpose.

Most important of all - follow through! Don't beat yourself up because you missed a goal for a specific time (day, week, etc.). Reset yourself instead - analyze why you missed the goal and figure out how to attain that goal (if the goal is truly something you want to maximize!).

Some of the things I want to see more of in my life in concrete form are:

Writing Daily Pages (from Julia Cameron's The Artist's Way)

Going on an Artist Date - enjoying and nurturing my inner child, seeing the world through those eyes instead of these old "adult" eyes all the time (again from Julia Cameron)

Exercise - I enjoy riding my bike, hiking, bird walks, and so many other things.

Yoga and/or meditation - I know I feel better and more at peace when I practice yoga, so why don' t I have more of it in my life?

These are the things I will be working on (as well as some others) during the course of this MaXIMIzing year! What will you be working on?

Sharing Knowledge

This is one of several essays that came my way today...

“If you have knowledge, let others light their candles on it.” - Margaret Fuller

“This little light of mine, I’m going to let it shine…” How many of us remember that from church or grade school?

“Knowledge shared is knowledge squared.” Another favorite quote of mine.

Knowledge is power, a power that grows by sharing it with others. The way I’m sharing my knowledge, my life learning, with you via this essay, this blog, and all my other ramblings and writings.

Knowledge can also be power lost. We lose it by hoarding it, refusing to share it, taking it with us when we leave. We also lose it by destroying it, as was done to the library of Alexandria, or by the senseless killings of wise men and women accused of crimes they did not commit, as has been done in the name of religion or political and material greed.

Knowledge can be destroyed or placed under a bushel by fear. Fear of the unknown seeking to be known. Fear of change, of growth, of loss. Fears that come from a place of lack, that dark place that shuns the light.

Knowledge brings light, the light at the end of the tunnel, the light that illuminates the darkness and chases away the demons of ignorance. Knowledge brings the light of abundance in its wake.

So, I’m going to let this little light of mine shine, lighting the way for others or lighting their candles to illuminate their own ways out of the darkness.

New Month, New Year, Different Choices

Yes, it is now October, a new month. Also, it is a new year for me - fiscal year that is - currently being a Federal civilian employee.

With all the newness, and thanks to the challenge Michelle Brunmier posted on her Facebook page (the one you can like to follow...), I've decided to do New Month Resolutions. On the post I'm referring to, she writes, "This month, my goal is to exercise and meditate at least 4 times a week (one more than last month), to read every day, and to write in my gratitude journal every night. Being grateful is key...I think we get lost in our "situations" and forget all the wonderful things we have."

As those of you who've known me for a while know, my life has not been the easiest these last nearly six months. I've done a lot of soul-searching, and am in the process of climbing up that long tunnel towards the light I can see shining brightly at the end - even though sometimes it only shines as a pinprick in the cavern of darkness I feel like I'm in at times, rather than as a window shining in the front room of life...one could say I have a tendency to "get lost in (my) 'situation(s)' and forget all the wonderful things (I) have."

So my first resolution is to keep in the front of my mind all the things I am grateful for - today, it is having a job, my wonderful husband, my adorable and brilliant children, grandchildren, step-children, and children of my heart, my expanding network of Girlfriends -both through My Girlfriends Garden and other areas, the rest of my family - brothers, sisters-in-law, nieces, cousins, et al, the rain that is moving through our area right now - lightly at the moment, my cat always happy to see me at the end of the day, my wonderful team mates at work (both Corps and sponsor/stakeholder team mates) who helped propel my little program to execute at 96% of what we expected - making us Green in the lingo of the Corps, my health, my hunger, desire, need to write that never goes away, and the many avenues I have to express and share what flows through me onto the page (like this one, for example!).

I could focus on the dark things in life, but why? Life is too short and too grand and too full of things full of light to allow the dark to overtake me for more than a very short time. The dismals is not where I want to dwell, not now, not ever!

My second resolution is to do things to propel the career I will have after I retire to fruition - writing prose, poetry, and essays, self-publishing where necessary, looking at venues to sell my wares - both writing and photography, looking into what it takes to become a yoga instructor and life coach (perhaps I should have said careers - plural???), and start building the connections now to make this all a reality sooner rather than later.

And those two resolutions are enough - for now! ; )